Highly sensitive person ... and proudDo you have the trait of high sensitivity? Does this sound like you?

You tend to be very aware of the subtleties in your environment;
You pick up on other people’s moods;
You need quiet-time on very busy days;
You’re sensitive to caffeine;
You’re overwhelmed by loud noises, bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics;
You startle easy;
You have a rich inner life.

Yes? Then, like me, you may be a highly sensitive person (HSP).

You, along with 15-20% of the population, have a nervous system which is more sensitive to your surroundings and stimuli.

There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s just how you are.

But being sensitive can feel like a curse – we feel EVERYTHING so intensely it can be overwhelming.

We can feel like a square peg in a round hole of our culture.  We live in a world of open plan workspaces, of group work, of noise and stimulation, of aggression and pushiness. Outgoing people seem to “get on” in life better – being rewarded for their gregariousness by promotions and popularity.

“Sensitive” is used as an insult. We often feel misunderstood and over-looked.

But I am passionate about the trait of high sensitivity being a gift.

HSPs tend to be more empathetic, more intuitive, more aware, more soulful, deeper thinkers.  We are creative. We think and process deeply which means our ideas and solutions come from a place of awareness not reaction. Which is what our society sorely needs.

Here’s how you can work with me – in-person events take place in the Eastleigh / Wickham / Romsey areas of Hampshire, UK.

  • Stress Relief for Sensitives Tool Kit and ebook: pathways to peace when the world and your feelings overwhelm you. It contains three guided meditation audio recordings and a 50-page ebook of essential resources, practices and perspectives that will help you, as an HSP, to manage your energy and overwhelm — so you can move from surviving to thriving.
  • My book: ‘Peace Lies Within: 108 ways to tame your mind and connect to inner peace’. In this book you’ll learn ways to tame that busy, fretful mind so you can feel less stressed and more resilient, centered and calm.
  • Soul Wisdom blog where I share experience & offer tips and inspiration. Here are my posts specifically on high sensitivity.

And to find out if you’re highly sensitive take the test.

(Reveal: I answer yes to every question…)

About me

Stella Tomlinson: highly sensitive person and tree huggerI love peace and quiet. I love to sit and think and feel and day dream. I have a vivid imagination.

I’m easily over-whelmed my noise and bright lights and being around a lot of people I don’t know so I tend to avoid large gatherings or come across as quiet and reserved when I’m in them. I also have a very busy mind which notices all that’s going on around me and is aware of the permutations of a course of action even before I take the first step!

I need my time alone each day – and if I don’t get it I wind up anxious, drained and utterly exhausted.

I first learned about the trait of high sensitivity in 2014 – and it changed my life.

I’m a lover of soul-full living, self-care and kindness; taking the radical option of rest and relaxation and meditation; appreciator of life’s simple pleasures; follower of the seasons and cycles of life; and a highly sensitive person. All of this is at the heart of how I teach.

I’ve been practising yoga and meditation since 2000 and teaching since 2011.  I initiated as a Priestess of Brighde in January 2020.

Read more  About Me and my journey.

Further reading & links

Keep in touch

Follow me on Facebook and Instagram for inspiration on finding peace in this frantic world and caring for & nurturing your sensitive nature as well as insights into how I live well as a highly sensitive person.

I also host the Facebook Group Soul Space for Sensitives Community which you’d be very welcome to come on over and join.

If you would like to receive my Soul Space Resftul Nap meditation as well as regular ‘Soul Wisdom Mail’ – soulful insights delivered to your inbox to inspire you to connect to inner peace by living in rhythm with the flow of life & your needs as a sensitive, soulful person + updates on my events & services – then please register to receive it here.

More about High Sensitivity

A highly sensitive person is someone with a trait characterized by hypersensitivity to external stimuli, a greater depth of cognitive processing, and high emotional reactivity.

“Sensory Processing Sensitivity” is the scientific name for this trait (known in the mainstream as being a “Highly Sensitive Person”)

The term and trait were identified and disseminated by the research and writings of Dr Elaine Aron whose original research which identified this innate temperament trait was carried out in the early ‘90s.

Dr Elaine N Aron describes high sensitivity thus:

“Your trait is normal. It is found in 15 to 20% of the population–too many to be a disorder, but not enough to be well understood by the majority of those around you.

It is innate. In fact, biologists have found it to be in most or all animals, from fruit flies and fish to dogs, cats, horses, and primates. This trait reflects a certain type of survival strategy, being observant before acting. The brains of highly sensitive persons (HSPs) actually work a little differently than others’.

You are more aware than others of subtleties. This is mainly because your brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. So even if you wear glasses, for example, you see more than others by noticing more.

You are also more easily overwhelmed. If you notice everything, you are naturally going to be overstimulated when things are too intense, complex, chaotic, or novel for a long time.

This trait is not a new discovery, but it has been misunderstood. Because HSPs prefer to look before entering new situations, they are often called “shy.” But shyness is learned, not innate. In fact, 30% of HSPs are extraverts, although the trait is often mislabeled as introversion. It has also been called inhibitedness, fearfulness, or neuroticism. Some HSPs behave in these ways, but it is not innate to do so and not the basic trait.

Sensitivity is valued differently in different cultures. In cultures where it is not valued, HSPs tend to have low self-esteem. They are told “don’t be so sensitive” so that they feel abnormal.”

{From http://hsperson.com/}