I’m Stella Tomlinson (pronouns: she/her) and my mission is to guide highly sensitive women*, like you, to connect to your intuitive wisdom & the sacred cycles of nature so that you can awaken to your soul’s purpose and finally live to your full potential.
I am an author, Priestess and soul guide, helping women who are awakening to the call to connect to the wisdom of their intuitive and cyclic bodies, the whispers of their soul, Goddess and the sacred seasons of nature and life so you can learn to listen to and trust your intuition and live the soul-led life you’re here to live.
I share a path of nature spirituality blended with dream meditations for healing, empowerment and creative inspiration.
As Priestess of Brighid (Goddess of healers, poets & smiths), I use the magic and power of the written and spoken word to bring Brighid’s light of healing, inspiration and transformation into the world.
This path honours your body, mind, emotions and soul.
Through establishing and nurturing this spiritual connection you will awaken to your true potential, so you can live in alignment with your values and dreams.
* All those who identify as women, and all gender identities are welcome here.
I am committed to the life-long journey of anti-racism and unlearning the unconscious biases I hold due to my privileges of being born white, middle-class, cis-gender and able-bodied.
About my approach
In this age of anxiety, pressure and busyness it’s all too easy to deny your feelings and ignore your body and to push on through, worrying about what other people think and whether you measure up.
I know because I’ve been there: feeling anxious, empty and numb with a niggling feeling there was something really important to me that I was neglecting.
It was my innate wisdom as a highly sensitive woman: cyclic and intuitive, and naturally connected to the healing rhythms of nature.
There were parts of myself I was rejecting: my sensitive nature, the wisdom of my body, the intuitive whispers of my soul … and a deep need for rest.
I don’t do that anymore I’ve reclaimed who I am and what I need.
This is what fuels my mission.
I want to help you heal your relationship with yourself, embrace your wisdom, freedom and power so you can see and share your unique soul gifts to help heal this world on fire.
So, I take a grounded spiritual approach to emotional healing and self-empowerment based on what I have studied, learned and practised on my own journey over these last 20 years.
And since 2015 I’ve been studying, living and sharing sacred seasonal and cyclic living through Goddess spirituality – initiating as Priestess of Brighid (Goddess of healing, inspiration and transformation) in January 2020, after a two-year training through the Glastonbury Goddess Temple, and in March 2020 I commenced the study of Druidry through registration at the Bardic Grade with the Order of Bards, Ovates and Druids (OBOD).
I’m a nature-lover; a moon-gazer; a tree-hugger; a cloud-watcher; an avid reader, and a highly sensitive person.
~ Let me help you guide you home to a deeply-rooted sense of self ~
I see you…
Beloved soul. I see you.
I see your divine radiance … the light within your heart with its infinite capacity for healing, guidance and compassion.
Peace lies within you. Radiance shines from every cell. You are divine!
But I know that sometimes you feel sad and frustrated at not feeling quite good enough, and sometimes you feel overwhelmed and misunderstood and can’t see the way forward… I see this, because I’ve experienced this myself.
- You feel your emotions deeply and can often feel overwhelmed by the intensity of your own thoughts and emotions;
- You pick up on other people’s energies and moods and you tend to be very aware of the subtleties in your environment – which can sometimes feel like a gift and other times like a curse;
- You feel the pain in the world of greed, cruelty, intolerance, rampant consumerism and environmental destruction;
- You feel frustrated and misunderstood, like you’re the only person you know who feels all these complex feelings so intensely.
You yearn to feel calm, peaceful & relaxed and at ease in your own skin, instead all too often you feel anxious/depressed.
How do I know? Because I know that, like me, you’re a highly sensitive woman… and this is how we can feel!
Let me help you, radiant woman. For I know that deep within you, you know what you need to shine with peaceful confidence. You just need to remember…
So, please know, dear one, that you are not alone. I am here for you.
The sensitive, radiant souls who are already in my online and Hampshire UK-based communities are here for you too.
Like us, you probably also love spending quiet-time thinking, dreaming, and reflecting (when you can get it!); find comfort in being in nature and feeling that beautiful sense of how all of life is connected; and love connecting to the unseen world of soul and spirit and the longings and wisdom of the heart.
And now you’re ready to reclaim the peaceful joy that is your birthright. You’re ready to make space in your life for healing rest and reflection and tuning into the rhythms of nature. You’re ready to act on the wise whispers of your soul.
Yes? Then let us welcome you home. It’s time to come home to yourself.
I believe the way our prevailing culture keeps us busy, distracted and numb causes profound stress and anxiety.
We’re suffering from a disconnection from our soul, our essential spirit, and the sacred and subtle cycles of life.
Do you feel it too? Do you seek a deeper connection to life? To your inner spirit, to the moon and nature, and a profound unshakeable sense of peace, meaning and clarity?
We’ve disconnected from our bodies: our need for movement and rest and we’ve disconnected from the messages our bodies are constantly giving us through emotions and intuitive feeling, and instead we’ve got stuck in our fretful minds and the voice of our inner critic and worrying about what other people think.
We’ve disconnected from the natural rhythms, energies and ebbs and flows of the menstrual cycle, the lunar cycle and the cycles and seasons of the year.
We’ve disconnected from meaningful spiritual practices which are grounded in place and time and the web of life.
We’ve disconnected from the joy of simple, sustainable living in accordance with nature and become programmed to believe that doing and busy-ness and achieving and winning and growing and consuming more, more, more of everything is the way to happiness.
It’s the path to burnout and ill health … via stress, anxiety and depression.
So I believe that in our stressed, pressured, busy culture we need space and time to be; to reconnect to our bodies; to reconnect to our breath; to reintegrate body, mind and soul; and to quieten the din of external stimuli and our anxious, analysing noisy mind so we can hear the inner intuitive voice of wisdom guiding us to reconnect to our own needs; the natural rhythms and cycles of the day, month and year; and to live radiant, joyful lives based on meaningful connection.
This is how I try to live my life and it’s brought me so much more contentment and fulfillment now I embrace who I am: an eternal, radiant soul born into this highly sensitive, cyclic female body.
And I’d love for you to feel this same sense of coming home. Of reconnection to something that was there all along: the guidance of your sensitive, loving heart and soul, and the guidance of the natural rhythms and cycles of the moon and the seasons which will show you how to live your life in a state of flow (instead of resistance and stress and low energy).
I’d love for you to embrace your sensitivity, connect to flow and live life radiantly!
My journey has included stress, anxiety, depression, irritable bowel syndrome and migraines.
I’ve experienced hyper-vigilance: always expecting to be criticized or shamed and told I’m doing things wrong.
I’ve been a chronic people-pleaser: desperately trying to shape myself to get love and acceptance from other people.
I’ve experienced low self-esteem because deep-down my child-self had come to believe I wasn’t a good enough or likeable person.
I’ve been deeply stressed and anxious and experienced the sweaty palms, disrupted digestion, chronic tension and lack of sleep which can come with it.
I’ve experienced depressive episodes where I’ve just wanted to close my eyes and fade away.
During my childhood and adulthood I experienced a kind of soul-loss, where those little parts of me who felt shamed, confused and unloved remain lodged in my psyche and I found myself living and reacting from this place of vulnerability as an adult, often exhibiting maladaptive coping strategies.
I’ve learned that this Vulnerable Child within me needs my love.
I’ve learned to accept her, and start asking her what she needs so she can feel safe … and I, my adult self, can bloom and live to my full potential.
Let me tell you how it started.
Sensitive and misunderstood
A sensitive child, I loved my own company. I loved to read or to stare at the clouds. I loved to create music. But as I grew up I never quite felt I fitted into the norms of society. I was called shy – but knew deep inside that this wasn’t true: I just liked to watch and listen to those around me and take it all in and contribute when I felt I had something meaningful to say (to this day I’m pretty crap at small talk, hey, life’s too short!).
I realize now this discomfort in my own skin was about being highly sensitive in a culture which doesn’t seem to value emotions, intuition, soulfulness, quirkiness. School didn’t understand me. I had no idea how to take my place in the world. I didn’t know what career I should have. I was academically gifted but then got rejected from all unis I applied for – I didn’t shine in interviews because I had internalised the label “shy” and felt I couldn’t show myself because I didn’t know who I was.
Lost and confused
I went to University (twice – BA Hons in English and an MSc Econ in Information and Library Studies) and wound up a librarian – a noble profession if that’s your calling, but it didn’t let me be me: to sing my song, to shine my light and unique gifts in this world.
I didn’t know how to take my place in a world which valued loud, extrovert team players; where being successful meant climbing the ladder, stomping over other people and accruing material goods as a badge of success. I was creative, quiet, reflective and artistic.
So, through my 20s and into my early 30s I spent a lot of time feeling I was wasting my life. I wound up working in web content and internal communications – communicating with people from behind a web page or computer screen.
But I wanted to give, to help. I wanted to do something creative. I wanted to feel free and in charge of my life and my destiny. I didn’t like myself in this state. I was negative, stressed, snippy, cynical. Always looking on the negative side.
I experienced varying degrees of depression, anxiety and stress, which led to IBS, all under-pinned by feeling ill-at-ease in my body and a sense of low confidence.
Beginnings of transformation
Looking back now, I can see that discovering yoga and meditation was the beginning of my transformation. I first discovered it in 2000 aged 25, not long after I’d moved to a new city (Cardiff) where I knew no-one, for my first professional job in a large organisation.
I was tense, anxious, self-conscious and seriously stiff and inflexible and totally disconnected from my body.
But slowly and surely, I felt years of suppression being released from my body – it came through as a lot of anger and tears!
In April 2010 I began to train to become a Dru Yoga teacher (Dru is an energy-aware, subtle yet powerful approach to yoga, I qualified in 2012) and in 2011 I founded Living Yoga with Stella to teach yoga and meditation to ease anxiety and stress and to share my love of writing through my blog. (As of 2020 I no longer teach yoga.)
Over recent years I’ve felt my own practices and approaches changing.
I’ve felt called to connect in a different way.
To connect to the inner guidance of my menstrual cycle; to follow the waxing and waning rhythms of the lunar month and the seasons of the year. To honour the divine feminine principles of flow and cycles. To rest deeply. And to move and dance, freely. All of which feels so nurturing to this highly sensitive female body.
Discovering high sensitivity and menstrual cycle awareness
In 2015 I read two books which changed my life.
The first was The Highly Sensitive Person by Dr Elaine N. Aron.
The second was Code Red by Lisa Lister.
So, let’s start with the trait of high sensitivity. Sensory Processing Sensitivity is a trait shared by 15-20% of the entire population (and all higher mammals).
This means having a nervous system which is more sensitive to your surroundings and stimuli. In practice this means a tendency to be very aware of the subtleties in your environment, picking up on other people’s moods, needing quiet-time on very busy days, being sensitive to caffeine, being overwhelmed by loud noises, bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, startling easily, having a rich inner life. Sound like you? Then you’re probably a highly sensitive person (HSP) too.
Oh, this is SO me! Reading the book, I felt this explained so much of my life – the feeling of not fitting in, of needing to withdraw and have quiet-time. Because, let’s be frank, we don’t live in a world which values quiet, thoughtful, kind sensitivity do we?
And at the end of 2015 I read Code Red by Lisa Lister and discovered the power of my menstrual cycle. As she puts it: “know your flow, unlock your monthly super powers and create a bloody amazing life. Period.” Great advice indeed!
This offered another profound moment of awakening: why didn’t I already know this? Why wasn’t I taught about the natural and powerful ebbs and flows of the menstrual cycle? Why had I been disconnected from this ancient blood wisdom which flows through all women?
I got angry.
And I’ve been charting my menstrual cycle since the beginning of 2016. I know my cycle. I know my own ebbs and flows. It’s empowering. (I know that around day 25 I’ll likely feel like everything’s going to shit and I can’t be bothered anymore – and I know that this will pass and I don’t take any important decisions based on this feeling!).
Reclaiming my connection
So, since 2015 I’ve been living differently. I’ve been recognising and honouring the cyclic nature of life, and of life as a woman – and a highly sensitive one at that.
I’ve been attentive to the seasons as they change. I’ve been marking the Celtic Wheel of the Year: the summer and winter solstices, the spring and autumn equinoxes, Imbolc, Beltane, Lammas and Samhain. I’ve been following the cycles of the moon phases.
And I’ve been honouring the cyclic nature of being a woman: the monthly cycle. And alongside this I’ve been watching and noticing the ebb and flow of my high sensitivity and how it interacts with these cycles. And I’ve been called to rest, deeply, through the practice of Nidra Meditation.
In the last few years I’ve felt my soul calling me more deeply to honour the feminine principles of flow and rhythm … calling me to the Goddess. To the Goddess Brighid to be precise – and I am now Her Priestess. And I am immersing myself in the Western wisdom traditions of Druidry and the teachings of Sharon Blackie, on the mythic imagination.
And most recently I have been unpacking and processing how I became stuck in the ‘wounded maiden’ aspect of my psyche, due to being raised in an environment where I wasn’t fully able to explore my feelings and my growing sense of self while feeling safe, supported and seen. I place no blame on my parents for this: they were carrying their own unhealed emotional and psychological traumas, as some many people are.
And what has all of this brought me?
It’s brought me home.
It’s brought me in touch with Mother Earth and the cycle of the moon, months and seasons.
It’s brought me in touch with my needs and has connected me to my inner landscape.
It’s brought me home to my sensitive nature and to love how I can tune into the subtle energies of the shift in light and energy in nature and the shifts of my energy and focus as they change throughout each month and season.
It’s brought me home to the unconditional love of the Divine Mother and the nurturing, cherishing Mother energy within me, so ‘Little Stella’ can feel safe, seen and supported at all times.
It’s a reclaiming. A tuning in. A recalibration.
A reclaiming of my inner power and wisdom – to deeply know what I need to allow myself and give myself to nurture and honour my needs.
It’s brought me in touch with my power as a woman: cyclic, wise and intuitive.
We are part of nature. Its rhythms and flows are our rhythms and flows – and reconnecting to them offers us the medicine we need to heal from the depression, anxiety and stress which so many of us (particularly sensitives) feel, so we can rise up and live to our soul’s full potential.
And this is what I wish for you too.
What I wish for you
I’d love for you:
- To understand and embrace your sensitivity so you can thrive in this often insensitive world.
- To feel your body, mind and soul are connected and to help you feel at home there.
- To bring rest into your lifestyle so you can rebalance your nervous system, release tension from your body and feel at ease and relaxed in body and mind.
- To come home to the natural world and honour the cycles and seasons and their energies and gifts of connection as a grounded, embodied spiritual practice.
- To unlock the source of creative inspiration which is waiting to be found within you when you practise dream meditation.
Above all, I want to empower you to reconnect to the inner intuitive guidance available to you through the sacred temple of your body; the wise whispers of your heart and soul; and the sacred energies of the seasons and cycles of life as a grounded spiritual practice.
Is this what you’d like in your life?
Here’s how I can help
*As of summer and autumn 2020 I am developing new sacred online offerings to launch later this year + working to complete my latest books*
‘Peace Lies Within’ book
Read my first book ‘Peace Lies Within: 108 ways to tame your mind and connect to inner peace‘ available in print and as an ebook. In this book you’ll learn ways to tame that busy, fretful mind so you can feel less stressed and more resilient, centered and calm.
Moon Wisdom Meditation Tool Kit
Tune into the guidance of the Moon and turn your intuition into inspired action. It’s a bundle of five guided meditation audios – one for each of the major phases of the Moon, a workbook of Moon Wisdom Soul Reflection prompts + a BONUS free 17-page eBook on the Moon and Lunar Cycles. Get your Moon Wisdom Tool Kit.
Soul Wisdom blog
I’ve been blogging since 2011 so there is lots of wisdom to inspire and help you here. Visit the blog.
Mental Health Disclaimer:
I am a Priestess, writer and teacher. I am not a psychotherapist, counsellor or psychiatrist. What I offer is not suitable for healing trauma. I also acknowledge that suitable, good quality and long-term therapy is a privilege that not all can access or afford. But what I offer is not intended to be in place of therapy or professional mental health support.
Certifications & trainings
- Membership at Bardic Grade of the Order of Bards, Ovates and Druids (March 2020 – ongoing)
- Priestess of Brighde/Brigantia Training (with Priestess Marion Brigantia / Goddess Temple Glastonbury) January 2018 – January 2020, including the Elemental Goddess Healing modality.
- Energy Emotional Freedom Technique Master Practitioner (Guild of Energists), April – June 2018.
- Energy Emotional Freedom Technique Foundation (Guild of Energists), November 2017.
- Jikiden Reiki Zenki (Shoden) Attuned – July 2017, certified by the Jikiden Reiki Institute.
- Menstrual Cycle Literacy (Red School Online) 2017-18.
- Hormone Harmony (Red School Online) 2017.
- Restorative Yoga Teacher Training (30-hour immersion, September 2016) with Adelene Cheong, Senior Assistant to Judith Hanson Lasater. Certified Restorative Yoga Teacher.
- Dru Meditation Teacher Training with International School of Dru Yoga. (November 2014 – July 2016.)
- Dru Yoga Teacher Training: 200 hour teacher training course (Dip DYT) with the International School of Dru Yoga, April 2010-April 2012.
+ I’ve been studying and practising Yoga Nidra since 2016.
My work is inspired and influenced by…
In addition to the training and wonderful teachers referenced above, I am deeply grateful to the following who inspire me in my own work and life:
- Sharon Blackie – writer, psychologist and mythologist; author of two of my favourite books: If Women Rose Rooted and The Enchanted Life.
- Uma Dinsmore-Tuli – author of Yoni Shakti, creator of Womb Yoga and co-founder of the Yoga Nidra Network.
- Richard Miller and the practice of iRest Yoga Nidra.
- Lucy H. Pearce – author, publisher, artist and teacher, and founder of Womancraft Publishing. I particularly love these books by Lucy: Burning Woman and Creatrix
- Rebecca Campbell – author, creator, artist and mystic, author of Light is the New Black and Rise Sister Rise and creator of two oracle decks: Work Your Light Oracle and The Starseed Oracle.
A bit more about me…
I live with my husband in Eastleigh, near Southampton, UK. We relocated here in late 2011 although I’ve lived in various places over the years: originally from the West Midlands, uni in London, postgrad in Aberystwyth, eight years working in Cardiff, then three in Staffordshire and now here I am in Hampshire.
I’ve been teaching, practising, studying and writing about yoga, relaxation, meditation and mindfulness since 2011 – and taught yoga between 2011 and 2020. I’ve been practising cycle connection and awareness since 2015
I’ve devoted myself full-time to my writing and teaching since June 2016, before that I worked in digital and internal communications in three different universities over the years. I’m an ex-yoga teacher, having taught weekly classes between 2011 and 2020.
When I’m not meditating, writing or creating you’ll usually find my head in a book or wandering around appreciating the beauty of the land, sea and sky.
I’m also a lazy gardener; an enthusiastic photographer; an incorrigible tree-hugger; a dreamy cloud-gazer; and an occasional painter (of sunsets and seascapes and goddess figures).
I’m a committed veggie and partial to gin, red wine and chocolate, and I have a phenomenal crystal jewellery collection.
And don’t forget to check out my Soul Wisdom blog
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