Highly Sensitive - sensing the subtle
HSPs: we can sense the subtle

Here are a few phrases which make my heart break a little when I hear them said about the trait of high sensitivity:

“I was diagnosed as highly sensitive a few months ago.”

“Yes, I have the condition too.”

“I try to manage my high sensitivity.”

I feel like crying out “no, NO, NOOOOO!!!!” whenever I hear words like this. And then enveloping the speaker in a big hug.

Why? Because it’s a sign that the person has internalized the idea that being “sensitive” means there’s something wrong with them.

And there’s not.

There really isn’t.

There’s nothing wrong with you

Being highly sensitive is NOT a condition (medical or psychological); it’s not an illness; it’s not a diagnosis; it’s not a disorder; and it’s not a chronic ailment that needs to be managed.

It just means that you have a nervous system which is more sensitive to your environment (both external and internal) than the other 80% of the population. It’s a neutral trait.

And in this awareness lies great power because it’s an invitation to reframe your life so you can thrive. To stop thinking you’re broken and start embracing who you are.

The only thing that needs managing is learning to care for yourself and thrive as so many of us sensitives live in an overstimulating culture which is obsessed with busyness, noise, achievement and growth.

Western societies have come to value attributes and behaviours which don’t come naturally to us high sensitives. Things like always being a team player, thinking on your feet, quick responses, the expectation that you’ll thrive in noisy workplaces. Things like competition and “them and us” thinking. The harshness and judgement and shaming that seems to have become the norm in public life.

Yes I know it can feel tough to feel somehow different to the norm (while also knowing, there’s no such thing as normal anyway!).

Embrace your sensitivity

Here are some of the gifts of being a highly sensitive person. 

You may:

  • Be more likely to need to reflect on things before taking a decision but then you’ll come up a well-thought through solution / decision;
  • Tend to see the best in people;
  • Be quick to pick up on subtle cues that others don’t see;
  • Have a strong sense of intuitive guidance;
  • Have a felt sense of how all of life is connected;
  • Deeply appreciate the arts and nature.

What you can offer is what is sorely needed in society!

So there’s no condition to be managed.

Your sense of “otherness” and “wrongness” comes from having being brought up and living in a culture which doesn’t value your gifts.

This doesn’t mean you have to fix your sensitivity and develop a thicker skin.

Please don’t waste your energy on trying to fix yourself.

Instead put your energy into this – your job is threefold:

#1 Learn your unique needs so you can regulate your easily-overstimulated nervous system

Such as through:

  • adequate rest (e.g. sleep or resting with your eyes close to reduce sensory stimulation or a practice like restorative yoga);
  • doing what brings you joy (which can be as simple or complex as what truly suits YOU);
  • connecting to transcendence to rise above daily demands on your body and mind (e.g. through connection to nature; prayer; or meditation, for example).

#2 Allow yourself these things … without guilt

This can be challenging.  But the stress and lack of self-esteem you may feel will begin to lessen when you allow yourself what you need to regulate your nervous system so you spend less time in flight/fight/freeze response and more time in your body’s relaxation response.

#3 Reframe yourself and your life through the lens of seeing your sensitivity as a gift

As a sensitive you have gifts of insight, intuition, reflection, measured responses, appreciation of the inter-connectedness of life – all gifts that this world sorely needs.

DO THIS: Write down at least five gifts that you have because you can feel so deeply.

Celebrate them – share some in the comments below.


So please, never refer to your sensitivity as a condition to be managed or a diagnosis or a problem.

I know it’s challenging when you may have lived so much of your life thinking there’s something wrong with you.

There’s not.

You are one of the wise counsellors; creatives; and peace-bringers that this world sorely needs.

And the sooner we sensitives realize and embody this, the sooner we can bring our unique healing gifts to a world in pain.

Embrace your sensitivity beloved fellow sensitive. Find your inner peace.

And shine.

Because the world needs your light.

What next?

Soul Space for Sensitives:
Space your soul is yearning for

Soul Space for Sensitives events: yoga, meditation, yoga nidra, rest, connection. Embrace your sensitivity.

Soulful connection through movement, rest, meditation, guided self-enquiry, ceremony and seasonal energy awareness: events in Romsey & Wickham, Hampshire, UK.

Sensitives like you and me need to time and space away from this busy over-stimulating world.

We need time and space to soothe and balance our nervous systems; to rest and reflect; and to dream into connection with the deep innermost wisdom of our heart and soul.  We need opportunities to get away from everyday life and to honour our own nature.

And I’ve noticed that we sensitives tend to be feel the changing and shifting energies of the seasons and monthly cycles throughout the year, so it nourishes our mind, body and soul to consciously connect to and honour these natural rhythms.

We’re wired to sense the more subtle – we intuitively feel and know there are subtle energies within and around us and feel drawn to connect to something beyond ourselves such as the web of life; nature; source; the divine … each of us senses this uniquely.

Trouble is, we high sensitives can easily get over-stimulated and I know from my own experience that when that happens this sense of connection becomes harder to find and hear…

So, let me offer you this space your soul is yearning for: Soul Space.

Soul Space is about slowing down, rebalancing the nervous system, soothing and honouring your sacred body so you can reconnect to yourself, to inner peace … and the soulfulness within you.

These events explore soulful connection through movement, rest, meditation, guided self-enquiry, ceremony and seasonal energy awareness.

Soul Space: Dream your soulful vision for 2019

Soul Space for Sensitives: Dream your soulful vision for 2019Saturday 5 January 2019 | 2.15-5.15pm | The Yoga Shed Wickham, Wickham Square, Wickham, PO17 5JN
£30 early bird booked before end of October | £35 thereafter 
Find out more & Book Here

Would you love to welcome 2019 with calmness, clarity and enthusiasm?  Then a soulful & joyful journey awaits you…

Meeting on the first New Moon of the year – a powerful time to set intentions – we’ll tap into your intuitive, highly sensitive wisdom with:

  • Movement to get your energy flowing
  • Deep rest to settle your mind
  • Meditations to dream your intentions & vision for the year ahead

Book your Soul Space here

More dates for 2019 … booking opening soon:

  • Spring Awakening: Saturday 23 March 10am-4pm at the Wisdom Centre, Romsey
  • Summer Reflections: Saturday 22 June  2.15-5.15pm at the Yoga Shed, Wickham
  • Autumn Haven: Saturday 21 September 10am-4pm at the Wisdom Centre, Romsey
High sensitivity is a gift not a disorder

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